My Neighbors are Complaining About My Parties

At JCMS, we frequently hear people saying things such as:

  • I like to have parties on the weekend, and I don’t think it’s that loud, but my neighbors call the cops on me!
  • Yes, I have hot tub parties, and some people may be nude, but if the neighbors don’t want to see that, they don’t have to look!
  • It’s not like my parties are any different from anyone else’s!  Why are they picking on me?

Many folks have outside parties now and then, but when does it become intolerable for the people nearby?  How do I keep from upsetting my neighbors?

First, it can help if you give your neighbors advance notice that you are planning to have a party. They may want to go somewhere else to avoid the noise.  You could invite them to come – at least it gives them a choice.

Next, it’s good to tell them what time the party will start, and what time you expect it to end (obviously, you don’t always know an exact ending time).  Consider moving the festivities indoors after 10:00 or 11:00 in the evening, and think about turning down the stereo at that time (a loud, thumping bass is a common source of complaints).

If you have parties on a regular basis, it’s likely that some of your neighbors will begin to object, unless you stick to a noise curfew, and try to make sure that your guests aren’t too rowdy.  Of course, “rowdy” may not mean the same thing to you as it does to your neighbors, so try to be aware of what those nearby may think is appropriate.  If you live in a neighborhood where there are lots of families with small children, they will not appreciate having their kids kept up late by loud music and people yelling.

There will always be people who don’t want any noise at all, and other people who are very tolerant about noise.  If someone is calling the police every time you have a party, and the suggestions above haven’t helped, consider mediation.

JCMS offers FREE mediation to Jefferson County citizens and businesses.  Mediation is a good way to discuss your differences reasonably, with a neutral third party (a mediator) to facilitate the conversation.  The mediators won’t tell you what to do, give legal advice, or say who is right or wrong, but they are trained to help people with disagreements to work together to find a resolution, instead of yelling at each other.  For more information on mediation, go to our website at, or call us at 303.271.5060.  Para el Espanol, 720-577-5826.